YOU ARE NOT ALONE

I am passionate about working with transgenerational trauma (when unresolved emotional issues are passed on from one generation to the next, from parents to their children) and how all of that influences our adult lives and relationships.

Transgenerational scenarios is unconscious knowledge that has a tremendous impact on our lives. It is a system of repetitive life events and behaviours that often don't allow living lives to its full potential. We all carry transgenerational scenarios - the good and the bad - no one is excluded.

Every belief we have about ourselves (and the world!) is relational and transgenerational. Very often people confuse "what they've learned" in their early attachment relationships/lives with who they truly are. We might find it difficult to re-connect with parts of ourselves that were unwelcome, that we had to suppress in order to earn love and belonging.

When we have those unresolved wounds we might live disconnected from our potential, from other people, including our partners or children, mainly driven by unconscious process. Repeating our transgenerational scenarios.

We might have conditional sense of self, where we only measure our self-worth through achievements, titles or certain body image.

We might carry consistent feeling of not being enough and feel emotionally lonely even while in relationships with others. We might avoid intimacy to protect ourselves from abandonment and rejection.

We might punish ourselves by chronic quilt and shame. We will struggle with being authentic, to take risks and to actualise our potential out of fear of failure and disapproval. 

We might feel unworthy or not capable of creating the life we truly desire. We might live with the constant internal conflict and self-sabotage, especially when we get close to positive change or breakthrough.

We might feel that we are becoming "our mother" or "our father" with our own children, finding ourselves in familiar destructive, dismissive or harmful behaviours. We might struggle to understand how to come out and break these repetitive cycles. How to not pass on our own unresolved issues and wounds.

We often continue to blame others for our unrealised potential and unconsciously waiting from permissions from other people, for their approval before taking accountability for our own lives.

All of the above are costs of living with unresolved transgenerational trauma.

In my work I am supporting people in peeling those layers of early conditioning, of early learning, so you can see who you truly are vs. who "you've learned to need to be"! 

The beauty of human nature and development is that we have so many opportunities to heal, grow and change. Every day is an opportunity to re-decide what do we pass on!